Pull up a chair and stay awhile

Hi out there.

I’ve missed you all. I feel like I haven’t written in a year.

The past week I’ve been extraordinarily lazy, unmotivated busy. I know, excuses. But, I’m feeling a spark of motivation right now. So, I thought I’d write quick before the moment passes.

I really have a lot to say. So, let’s talk.

Sunday was all about me. Shocker! It was Mothers’ Day, my birthday and Cluttercafe’s first anniversary. Let me break it down for you.

First…Happy Mother’s Day to all of you. Not just the ladies. You guys too. You all have mothers. Or are married to someone’s mother or know a mother somewhere. Yes, I know Mothers’ Day is one of those “Hallmark Holidays” but sometimes we need a kick in the rear to remember that special woman. Maybe you take her for granted, or don’t see her everyday, or have lost her and just really miss her.

This year has been difficult for my family, to say the least. In March, my husband lost his mother to cancer. My children lost their grandmother. And, I lost not just a mother in law, but a friend. A confidant. A mentor. A woman I admired for her drive, her strength and her kindness and generosity. We miss her everyday. Sunday was a bittersweet day.

Go give your mom a hug. No really, GO!

As a mother myself, I’ve had to deal with my little boy being ill. What started as what we thought to be a sprained ankle was initially diagnosed as a nerve disorder with a grim prognosis of a lifetime of chronic pain. The team we met for a second opinion at Boston Childrens Hospital told us “good news, bad news” It wasn’t that, they just don’t know what it is and we were referred to Rheumatology.

Getting an appointment proved to be difficult. We finally gave up at Childrens and went to Massachusetts General Hospital for Children and got an appointment the following week. I really believe it was divine intervention. The doctor we met was wonderful. He was kind, compassionate, energetic and knowledgeable. He knew what he was dealing with 5 minutes after talking to us. Juvenile Idiopathic Arthritis. Although not a great diagnosis, it was much better than what we were dealing with. It had a name and it was treatable with medication and therapy, with the hope that it would go into remission and go away for good. I can’t stress enough how important it is to get a second opinion.

In the past three weeks, he has gone from a sad, scared child in severe pain back to a happy, active, energetic ten year old boy. We still have to do therapy to regain range of motion in his foot, but he is on the road to recovery. We are truly blessed.

Sunday was also my birthday. 41. No longer 40. Now I’m IN MY 40’s. See the distinction? I hate birthdays. YUK.

Last year, on my birthday, I started Cluttercafe. It was supposed to be a place to express my creativity, share and a sort of on-line journal for me to get rid of the clutter in my life and focus on organization.

Well, in typical Cluttercafe fashion it didn’t happen that way. Life became crazy and I lost my focus. I would start a project and never see it to fruition. I would bake and never take a photo for one reason or another. Family and work demands would make it impossible for me to sit down and write. There simply was not enough time in the day.

This week I realized that making excuses for what didn’t get done was not going to work. I had to stop and listen to my inner voice. You know the one who makes excuses and doesn’t take any responsibility for anything? Sort of an inner teenager. I had to tell her to shut the hell up. Actually, every day I have to tell her to shut the hell up.

“There isn’t enough time in the day to get everything done!”

Yes, there is. It’s called time management. Learn it!

“I have too much to do!”

Well maybe if I put things back where they belonged in the first place, I wouldn’t have to waste an hour looking for it!

I clean and clean and it still looks messy!

Do I really need multiples of everything? And do I really need to keep this?

I’ve got work to do. I’m pretty sure by making some, even small changes, will help. I don’t want to spend my time cleaning. I want to spend it playing with my kids or hanging out with my husband.

Life’s too short.

I actually thought of not blogging anymore. It would be less stressful. That would save some time. But honestly, I would miss it. Even though it is another thing to do. I enjoy it. And shouldn’t life have those things? Those little labors of love? I may not have a million followers but the ones I do have are special and I love hearing from them. I enjoy writing and cooking and photography, so why not share it with you. Honestly, I would be afraid that if I didn’t have Cluttercafe, I wouldn’t do those things just for me. And something would be missing in my life. Even through all the crap this year, those times I’ve been able to blog have brought a smile to my face.

So thank you all for joining me this past year. I hope to make the upcoming year great at the Cafe and hope you are all willing to come along for the ride.

I love ya!

P.S. Tomorrow will start a new series…Wrap it up Wednesdays!

About Cluttercafe

Wife to a great guy. Mom to two active, wonderful kids. Full time working woman trying to keep it all together.
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6 Responses to Pull up a chair and stay awhile

  1. Love you Lis!! I’m so so so sorry you lost Danny’s Mom 😦 I’m not sure where I was when it happened.. I would have liked to have been there for you 😦 Life gets crazy, focus on what is important to you.. I’m so glad that Andrew has a diagnosis.. please keep us updated!

    Love, Suz

  2. Nancy Adams says:

    Love your words CC…we all need a dose of that medicine. Great blog! Don’t even think of ending this passion of yours! Too many of us would miss it!

  3. Ellen says:

    I love your blog and glad you are gonna continue. I love you and your family as neighbors. Jordan was Happy to see you today.<3


  4. Happy Birthday sweet friend! I can’t believe it has been a year already. Great news about Andrew -divine intervention with a little help from a special Guardian Angel. ❤ ❤ You are terrific and so glad you are going to continue the blog. lots and lots of hugs. Hope to see you soon.

  5. kristen smith says:

    What a nice entry. Um, and….ugh…happy belated birthday? good gravy. I definitely have the “in my 40’s” thing going on. I feel as if everything decided to hang an extra inch and my brain loose a few thousand cells.
    Can I just say, “I love you and miss you” So grateful Andrew is doing well!

  6. Nancy says:

    Lisa: First Happy Belated Birthday!!! Happy Mother’s Day also! We all miss and loved Jan and I can’t imagine the emptiness you have without her but you should know that you are loved and thought about all the time.
    About time you got back on… thought the site was down for good!!! Love how you write, truly makes me laugh!!!

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